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Proverbs 31 Today - by Mary L. Weinstein

When I first read Proverbs 31, I thought to myself, “yeah right…what woman can be that perfect?  I’m lucky if I can get up by 7am, let alone while it’s still dark!”  But as I studied each verse carefully and researched them, I was enlightened to what Proverbs 31 really is saying to women.  It is not telling a woman to be perfect.  It is telling a woman what she is capable of:  Greatness.  Women need something they can measure their growth and maturity by.  Proverbs 31 serves as a measuring stick for women.  It provides powerful principles (standards) a woman can live by.  The words spoken in Proverbs 31 were given by a woman about a woman’s role.  A woman is not called to be only a homemaker.  She’s capable of much more than that. 


  • Verse 10 opens up asking the question, “Who can find a virtuous wife?”  This means that it is rare (but not impossible) to find a woman of this stature.  She is not a common woman. 
  • Verse 11 says a virtuous woman can be trusted completely by her husband and he feels safe with her.  A virtuous woman is one of strength, might, efficiency, and ability.
  • Verse 12 says she does good things for her husband; she comforts him, and encourages him.  She doesn’t treat him badly.  She respects him.  She understands her role as a helpmate.  There is no power struggle.  She is confident in who she was made to be.
  • Verse 13 says she is a hard worker; she is productive, not idle.  She doesn’t sit around all day at home watching television. 
  • Verse 14 compares the woman to a merchant ship.  These ships transport goods from one place to another.  Basically, it is saying that she travels however far to get whatever her household needs.
  • Verse 15 says she wakes up early before everyone else does in order to prepare meals for her family as well as those who work in her household. 
  • Verse 16 says she “considers” a field and buys it.  That means she gives careful thought and consideration to an issue before making a decision.  This illustrates great wisdom on her part.  We are never to make hasty decisions.  We are to think carefully over them, pray about them and then make a smart decision.  After she purchases something that can earn her a profit, she then takes some of that profit and invests it to generate more profit.  She doesn’t run out and misspend it on foolish, material things.  She doesn’t go buy ten pairs of shoes.  She is business savvy. 
  • Verse 17 says she keeps herself strong and energetic.  She doesn’t allow herself to fall into a slump.  She probably does Pilates and eats right!
  • Verse 18 says she sees that she is reaping good fruit from what she has sown. Everything she does is paying off.  Her lamp does not go out by night, which means she never stops being productive.  
  • Verse 19 shows again that she is productive, industrious.
  • Verse 20 says she helps those in need.  She is generous and compassionate.
  • Verse 21 says she doesn’t let anything scare her.  She protects and prepares her family for what’s to come.  This woman has faith.
  • Verse 22 says she makes her own clothes and she dresses fine and elegant.  She’s classy not promiscuous.
  • Verse 23 says her husband is well known.  She is influential.
  • Verse 24 again shows that she is productive, making items that she sells for a profit.  She probably sells Mary Kay Cosmetics or crafts she makes!
  • Verse 25 says she clothes herself with strength and honor.  She looks at the future with optimism and is able to rejoice over it. 
  • Verse 26 says she is kind and speaks words of wisdom.
  • Verse 27 says she keeps an eye on everything that goes on in her home and in her family. She doesn’t partake in worldly things.  She does not compromise with the world.
  • Verse 28 says her husband and children recognize that she is an awesome woman of God and they brag about her. 
  • Verse 29 says she stands out in a crowd of women because of her excellence. 
  • Verse 30 says that just because a woman is beautiful on the outside doesn’t mean she’s a good woman.  External beauty fades but a woman who fears and serves God will be acknowledged and honored.
  • Verse 31 says she will reap honor and recognition as a result of all that she has done.  


What can we learn from the “virtuous” woman?  We can learn to be good time managers, to be productive, be a sharp business woman, be compassionate, be wise, be vigilant, and be Godly.  The virtuous woman is an excellent example of a woman who is well balanced.  Any woman is capable of being like the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31.  We can do all things through Christ who gives us strength (Philippians 4:13).


Copyright 2009 Mary L. Weinstein.  All Rights Reserved.

Mary L. Weinstein is a Certified Life Purpose Coach through Life Purpose Coaching Centers, Int'l.  She holds a Bachelor of Theology in Biblical Counseling from The King's College & Seminary.  She is an ordained Minister, Biblical Counselor and Bible Teacher.  Mary is the Founder and CEO of Friends with Purpose Ministries.  Her website is http://www.friendswithpurpose.com

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